Q: I have this thing for this guy. It’s more an affliction than anything. Because I like him in spite of the fact I know he isn’t a good guy. He does some questionable things recreationally, and I’m not about that. The issue isn’t what he does, I’m my own person after all. The real issue is, I like him but I very much do not want to date him. What should I do to rid myself of this ailment? A: As much as I hate the whole “good girl loves bad boy trope,” I have to admit it has some truth. Still, you can beat this. The first thing I would suggest is to stop all kind of contact. I don’t know how close you are with him, but try to distance yourself from him. Don’t say hi to him at the beginning of class, don’t smile at him in the halls. This might seem drastic, but it will hopefully get him off your mind and eventually out of your heart. If this doesn’t seem manageable, start focusing on his bad traits. Forget about his enticing eyes or witty humor; he isn’t a good guy. Whether that means he’s disrespectful or breaks the law or slacks off in school, he most certainly is not the boy for you. Remember this whenever you catch yourself swooning. Finally, sometimes the best remedy for a crush is another crush. Notice the boys around you that have similar interests and share your values. Start becoming friends with these guys, and hopefully you’ll fall for one of them instead. Good luck!
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